给前夫当“保姆”，这恐怖故事真不该被夸
<div class="wx_rich_media_content" id="jsWxContainer"><h1 data-foldable-wrapper="" style='outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); visibility: visible;' data-mpa-powered-by="yiban.io"><p style='margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;caret-color: rgb(34, 34, 34);text-size-adjust: inherit;visibility: visible;line-height: 1.6em;'><br></p></h1><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>自“红砖房”事件后，《梦想改造家》又引起了争议。<br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;letter-spacing: 0.578px;text-wrap: wrap;border-radius: 6px;'></span></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><br></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>但比起上次给农村人建后现代巨型毛坯房这种荒之大谬，这回节目组犯的忌，要隐晦不少。</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>它更像一个社会隐喻，寻常而平淡，却让任何人都可以代入，乃至倒吸一股凉气。</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><br></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>委托人小盛的父亲，是位中学物理老师，在小盛10岁时“厌倦了平淡而琐碎的生活，选择了离开，去寻找新的幸福”，这段原封不动的节目解说，翻译下就是：</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(171, 25, 66);'><strong style='font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: var(--articleFontsize);letter-spacing: 0.034em;'>抛妻弃子，跟别人在一起了。</strong></span><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><strong style='font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: var(--articleFontsize);letter-spacing: 0.034em;'></strong></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><strong style='font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: var(--articleFontsize);letter-spacing: 0.034em;'><br></strong></span></section><section style='text-align: center;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;border-radius: 6px;'></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>父母离婚后，他起初跟着母亲，后来依恋奶奶，又回到了老房子跟奶奶生活在一起。</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>一二十年里，父亲始终没照顾过小盛。</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>什么时候跟小盛建立联结的呢？<br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>老了突发疾病，失语，右半身半身不遂。</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='text-align: center;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;border-radius: 6px;'></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>一开始小盛把他送到疗养院住，但他脾气又臭又倔，不适应疗养院便闹脾气，动静很大。</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 2px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 2px; font-size: 15px;'>无奈小盛把他接回了老房子，照顾父亲的重任就落到了小盛和奶奶身上。</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><br></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>2020年奶奶去世，父亲也几经辗转，换了好几处地方养病——</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>老房子潮湿，他身体受不了，小盛又给他单独租了阳光充足还带小院的商品房。</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>只是解决了居住问题，父亲又挑剔起饮食，由于不满意保姆做的饭菜，两个月换了四个阿姨。</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='text-align: center;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;border-radius: 6px;'></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>这时，意想不到的转折发生了——</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><br></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>被前夫背叛，离婚很多年的母亲回来了，主动要照顾患病的前夫。</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>别想太多。</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><br></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(171, 25, 66);'><strong>母亲只是心疼儿子。</strong></span><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><strong><br></strong></span></section><section style='text-align: center;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;width: 100%;height: auto;border-radius: 3px;'></span><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;letter-spacing: 0.578px;text-align: center;text-wrap: wrap;border-radius: 6px;'></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 2px; font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 2px; font-size: 15px;'>小盛工作压力大，还要照顾父亲，经常两头奔波（此前还照顾奶奶），新谈的女友也跟着小盛奔波、受苦。</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 2px; font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>这么一看，母亲的归因就不难想象了——怕儿子太辛苦，怕儿子女友受不了离开儿子。</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>母亲对儿子的帮助，是以牺牲自己的业余爱好和精神生活为代价。</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>她原本有自在的老年生活，尤为热衷乒乓球，之前她每天都会打球，还常常出去打比赛。</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;width: 578px;height: 53px;border-radius: 3px;'></span><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;letter-spacing: 0.578px;text-wrap: wrap;border-radius: 6px;'></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>看到这，不少人应该已经开始替她不值。</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>在这个家庭中父亲从头至尾都是既得利益者，年轻时未尽到任何责任，又让亲妈、前妻和孩子为自己的任性买单。</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>患病时，他后来组建的新家庭没人管他；回到旧家庭，依然难改脾气，折腾家人而不知羞愧。</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>而妈妈则是被迫收拾残局的牺牲者，早年要照顾儿子的成长，晚年要成全儿子的孝心。</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin: 0pt 16px; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); border-width: initial; border-style: none; border-color: initial; visibility: visible; line-height: 1.5em; text-align: center;'><span style='outline: 0px;text-align: start;text-indent: 28px;visibility: visible;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>- 当初他离开家，还恨他吗？</span></section><section style='margin: 0pt 16px; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); border-width: initial; border-style: none; border-color: initial; visibility: visible; line-height: 1.5em; text-align: center;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><span style='outline: 0px; text-align: start; text-indent: 28px; visibility: visible; color: rgb(136, 136, 136);'>- 一直没恨过，</span><span style='color: rgb(136, 136, 136); text-align: start; text-indent: 28px;'>不恨对我是一种解脱</span></span></section><section style='margin: 0pt 16px; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); border-width: initial; border-style: none; border-color: initial; visibility: visible; line-height: 1.5em; text-align: center;'><span style='outline: 0px;text-align: start;text-indent: 28px;visibility: visible;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;width: 578px;height: 65px;border-radius: 6px;'></span><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;letter-spacing: 0.578px;text-wrap: wrap;border-radius: 6px;'></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>东亚的人伦道德，总是以“不计较得失”为光荣。最伟大的人格，莫过于被社会活埋了半截，还要挣扎爬出来独顶半边天。</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><strong>而人性也就贱在，热衷于对牺牲者盘剥，对索取者讨好。</strong></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><strong><br></strong></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><br></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>小盛因为父、母与自己分居三地，来回奔波不方便，产生了重修老房子的想法，这样“一家人”可以住一起，也好照顾父亲。</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 2px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;'><br></span></section><section style='margin: 0pt 16px; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); border-width: initial; border-style: none; border-color: initial; visibility: visible; line-height: 1.5em; text-align: center;'><span style='outline: 0px;text-align: start;text-indent: 28px;visibility: visible;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>父亲住楼下</span></section><section style='margin: 0pt 16px; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); border-width: initial; border-style: none; border-color: initial; visibility: visible; line-height: 1.5em; text-align: center;'><span style='outline: 0px;text-align: start;text-indent: 28px;visibility: visible;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>母亲和他们小两口住楼上</span></section><section style='margin: 0pt 16px; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); border-width: initial; border-style: none; border-color: initial; visibility: visible; line-height: 1.5em; text-align: center;'><span style='outline: 0px;text-align: start;text-indent: 28px;visibility: visible;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>这样“一家人”既住在一起</span></section><section style='margin: 0pt 16px; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); border-width: initial; border-style: none; border-color: initial; visibility: visible; line-height: 1.5em; text-align: center;'><span style='color: rgb(136, 136, 136);text-align: start;text-indent: 28px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>又有各自的空间，也方便照顾父亲</span></section><section style='margin: 0pt 16px; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); border-width: initial; border-style: none; border-color: initial; visibility: visible; line-height: 1.5em; text-align: center;'><span style='color: rgb(136, 136, 136);text-align: start;text-indent: 28px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='text-align: center;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;border-radius: 6px;'></span><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;letter-spacing: 0.578px;text-align: center;text-wrap: wrap;border-radius: 6px;'></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 2px; font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 2px; font-size: 15px;'>这是节目组受小盛委托，为其寻找设计师改建老房的初衷，也是最令我迷惑之处。<br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 2px; font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='text-align: justify;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>“全家”一起看改建后的新房那天，儿子推着坐轮椅的父亲，像帮国王检阅领土一般热闹——</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='text-align: justify;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin: 0pt 16px; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); border-width: initial; border-style: none; border-color: initial; visibility: visible; line-height: 1.5em; text-align: center;'><span style='outline: 0px;text-align: start;text-indent: 28px;visibility: visible;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>“看，你的茶吧”</span></section><section style='margin: 0pt 16px; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); border-width: initial; border-style: none; border-color: initial; visibility: visible; line-height: 1.5em; text-align: center;'><span style='outline: 0px;text-align: start;text-indent: 28px;visibility: visible;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>“你的院子”</span></section><section style='margin: 0pt 16px; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); border-width: initial; border-style: none; border-color: initial; visibility: visible; line-height: 1.5em; text-align: center;'><span style='outline: 0px; visibility: visible; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); text-align: start; text-indent: 28px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 2px; font-size: 15px;'>“你的假山”</span></section><section style='margin: 0pt 16px; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); border-width: initial; border-style: none; border-color: initial; visibility: visible; line-height: 1.5em; text-align: center;'><span style='outline: 0px; text-align: start; text-indent: 28px; visibility: visible; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 2px; font-size: 15px;'>……<br></span></section><section style='margin: 0pt 16px; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); border-width: initial; border-style: none; border-color: initial; visibility: visible; line-height: 1.5em; text-align: center;'><span style='outline: 0px; text-align: start; text-indent: 28px; visibility: visible; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 2px; font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='text-align: justify; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 2px; font-size: 15px;'>母亲走在最后面，像这家的远房客人。</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='text-align: justify; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 2px; font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;border-radius: 6px;'></span><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;letter-spacing: 0.578px;text-wrap: wrap;border-radius: 6px;'></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><br></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='text-align: justify;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>父亲的房间坐落在一层，最宽敞豪华，还带小园林，房间甚至专门做了他喜欢的棋桌。<br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='text-align: justify;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='text-align: center;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;border-radius: 6px;'></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='text-align: justify;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='text-align: justify;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>儿子很开心地问父亲，景色好不好？<br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='text-align: justify;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='text-align: justify;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>父亲点头，儿子喜笑颜开。</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;text-align: justify;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;text-align: justify;'>做个阴暗且不道德的揣测：对曾经抛弃自己的父亲如此用心良苦，按常理看，只能是老人家有什么值得惦记的资产，才能解释得通了。</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;text-align: justify;'><br></span></section><section style='text-align: center;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;border-radius: 6px;'></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><br></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='text-align: justify;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>楼上小两口的房间是次好的。面积不大，但为了满足他们的工作需要，特意加了一层工作台和休闲区，还有为未来孩子考虑的区域。</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='text-align: justify;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='text-align: center;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;border-radius: 6px;'></span><span style='text-align: justify;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;letter-spacing: 0.578px;text-wrap: wrap;border-radius: 6px;'></span><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;text-wrap: wrap;letter-spacing: 0.578px;border-radius: 6px;'></span></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>到了母亲房间，恐怖故事来了。<br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><br></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>乍一看确实也不差，但若与家里其他部分相比，这就是个客房的水平。</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='text-align: center;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;border-radius: 6px;'></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>卧室的确考虑到了母亲的生活便利以及隐私需要。</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>除了常规的梳妆台、衣柜，还有水吧、独卫和洗衣机、烘干机。</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>不少批评说这是给妈妈洗衣干活的“保姆房”，但从母亲的反应来看，她对这俩电器其实是挺满意的。</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='text-align: center;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;border-radius: 6px;'></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='text-align: justify;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='text-align: justify;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>但即便不谈“保姆房”这个说法，你还是不难见其中的母职规训逻辑。</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='text-align: justify;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='text-align: justify;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(171, 25, 66);'><strong>不管是儿子的心理还是整个房屋设计，都在隐秘中默许、推动、落实母亲的功能性价值。</strong></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='text-align: justify;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><strong><br></strong></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='text-align: justify;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>所有人想到“母亲”，脑子冒出来的永远是厨房、洗衣机，倒水、做饭、晾衣服……</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='text-align: justify;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='text-align: justify;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>母亲的房间设计有那些家具太思维定势、不足为奇。<br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='text-align: justify;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='text-align: justify;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>所有人都知道母亲喜欢打乒乓球，设计师最后还给她送了球拍、球盒，儿子甚至对妈妈为他牺牲掉业余爱好心怀愧疚，但没有人想到帮她守护住这点爱好。</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='text-align: justify;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='text-align: justify;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>尤为讽刺的是什么呢？</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='text-align: justify;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='text-align: justify;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>床边做了一个乒乓球拍状的茶几。</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='text-align: justify;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;border-radius: 6px;'></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='text-align: justify;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='text-align: justify;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>马桶上面悬挂了一个里面装满乒乓球的玻璃框。</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='text-align: justify;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;border-radius: 6px;'></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='text-align: justify;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='text-align: justify;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>设计师说着哄小孩的行话：<br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='text-align: justify;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin: 0pt 16px; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); border-width: initial; border-style: none; border-color: initial; visibility: visible; line-height: 1.5em; text-align: center;'><span style='outline: 0px;text-align: start;text-indent: 28px;visibility: visible;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>你打球的这些回忆</span></section><section style='margin: 0pt 16px; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); border-width: initial; border-style: none; border-color: initial; visibility: visible; line-height: 1.5em; text-align: center;'><span style='outline: 0px;text-align: start;text-indent: 28px;visibility: visible;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>统统地留在了最后的一个惊喜（画框）</span></section><section style='margin: 0pt 16px; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); border-width: initial; border-style: none; border-color: initial; visibility: visible; line-height: 1.5em; text-align: center;'><span style='outline: 0px;text-align: start;text-indent: 28px;visibility: visible;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;border-radius: 6px;'></span><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;letter-spacing: 0.578px;text-wrap: wrap;border-radius: 6px;'></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>是，母亲毕生唯一一点属于个人的爱好与追求，最后的结局是被裱在厕所里当装饰品。</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>儿子也很想哄母亲开心：</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>“妈你看，连造型都是按照你的兴趣爱好来设计的。”</span></section><section style='text-align: center;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><br></section><section style='text-align: center;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;width: 578px;height: 69px;border-radius: 6px;'></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>有时，对立不是被制造的，而是就这么存在着的。</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>有的人的爱好，值得专门开疆辟土、建个室内大观园去满足。而有的人的爱好，只能在马桶上方被永久封锁。<br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><br></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>其实，在这个屋里放一张小型可折叠式球桌绝不是难事，哪怕是形式主义地摆着呢？</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;letter-spacing: 0.578px;text-wrap: wrap;width: 578px;height: 451px;border-radius: 6px;'></span></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='text-align: justify;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='text-align: justify;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>但儿子完全没朝那想，看到偌大的阳台，只兴奋地说：</span></section><section style='margin: 0pt 16px; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); border-width: initial; border-style: none; border-color: initial; visibility: visible; line-height: 1.5em; text-align: center;'><span style='outline: 0px;text-align: start;text-indent: 28px;visibility: visible;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin: 0pt 16px; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); border-width: initial; border-style: none; border-color: initial; visibility: visible; line-height: 1.5em; text-align: center;'><span style='outline: 0px;text-align: start;text-indent: 28px;visibility: visible;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>以后这里可以喝下午茶</span></section><section style='margin: 0pt 16px; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); border-width: initial; border-style: none; border-color: initial; visibility: visible; line-height: 1.5em; text-align: center;'><span style='outline: 0px;text-align: start;text-indent: 28px;visibility: visible;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>爸爸在下面组织牌局，我们在上面打牌</span></section><section style='margin: 0pt 16px; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); border-width: initial; border-style: none; border-color: initial; visibility: visible; line-height: 1.5em; text-align: center;'><span style='outline: 0px;text-align: start;text-indent: 28px;visibility: visible;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>互不影响</span></section><section style='margin: 0pt 16px; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); border-width: initial; border-style: none; border-color: initial; visibility: visible; line-height: 1.5em; text-align: center;'><span style='outline: 0px;text-align: start;text-indent: 28px;visibility: visible;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='text-align: center;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;border-radius: 6px;'></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>我们很容易听出，在这一家的主人翁意识里，并没有母亲的位置。<br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>他对未来美好生活的想象，只关于他们小两口以及父亲。<br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 2px; font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 2px; font-size: 15px;'>那妈妈在哪？</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 2px; font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 2px; font-size: 15px;'>毕竟这座房子留给妈妈空间的只有厨房，以及仅生活功能较为齐全的卧室。</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>但你知道，妈妈搬到了这座封闭的所在，是舍弃了自己原来的独立的家、自由的生活。</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>她选择来这里长居，甚至都不是为自己。</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>她是因为儿子需要她照应生活，将来有孩子的话，她也可以帮忙照看。</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;width: 578px;height: 172px;border-radius: 6px;'></span><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;letter-spacing: 0.578px;text-wrap: wrap;border-radius: 6px;'></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><br></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>儿子呢，也知道妈妈为他付出了很多。</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>但对母亲的感恩，好像只停留在口头上，却不会花费心思，让渡空间，为其弥补缺憾。</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>把妈妈的兴趣爱好，以纪念、回忆的形式锁在房间里，好像以这种轻描淡写的方式缓解愧疚，就可以心安理得享受母亲的奉献了。</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>此中暗含的正是某种千百年来的</span><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(171, 25, 66);'><strong>习惯性默认</strong></span><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>——</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><strong><br></strong></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><strong>默认家族女性应该牺牲，把空间（物质空间、精神空间）让渡出来，填上所谓的功能性职责。</strong></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><strong><br></strong></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>这一习惯，从奶奶这一代就开始了。</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>能看出小盛对从小照顾他的奶奶感情最深，他在提及奶奶去世时情绪波动大，还忍不住掉眼泪。</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;border-radius: 6px;'></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>老房子也是奶奶建的，奶奶所有，2019年之前（未改造前），楼上楼下加起来差不多装修了7次。</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;border-radius: 6px;'></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>但来到奶奶的房间，真的有一瞬间的惊诧。</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>奶奶住的是顶层的阁楼，像是从这座房子诞生的80年代起就没装修过一样，历史陈旧感扑面而来。</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>阁楼的顶棚漏光、漏水，小盛说自己用防水材料补过很多次。</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;letter-spacing: 0.578px;text-wrap: wrap;border-radius: 6px;'></span><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;letter-spacing: 0.578px;text-align: center;text-wrap: wrap;border-radius: 6px;'></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 2px; font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 2px; font-size: 15px;'>奶奶也就是2020年才去世，但奶奶的住处就好像她被所有人遗忘了一样。</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 2px; font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>也许是奶奶自己不愿意变动居所，或者不愿意浪费钱装修。<br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>但这其实也源自一种典型的东亚女性观念，为家庭补窟窿，收拾烂摊子的，却习惯性委屈自己，优先儿孙。</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>与其说其他人看不见，毋宁说他们已经习惯了享受并索取母爱的温度，潜意识默认母亲的付出是天性，是本应如此，因而不用回馈。</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>毕竟不回馈，没有任何风险和代价，更不会像在职场一样被开除“子籍”。只要自私点，假装看不见母亲的需要，没有任何损失就可以得到无限好处。</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>这个原本支离破碎的“家”，一方面为了照顾父亲，一方面为了成全小盛对“一家三口”的想象，被迫重组了起来。</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;border-radius: 6px;'></span><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;height: 86px;letter-spacing: 0.578px;text-wrap: wrap;width: 578px;border-radius: 6px;'></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>只要假装不懂妈妈的心情，她被迫迁居，就可以变“归来”。</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>“归来”这个词的使用，就好像20年前是母亲出走，一家人才走散一般。</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='text-align: center;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;width: 578px;height: 85px;border-radius: 6px;'></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>而那个失语、偏瘫的父亲，从他老年的表现便可以想见——</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>这得多以为自己理所当然被侍奉，才会因住不惯就大闹，吃不惯就频繁换人。</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>他曾被背叛的前妻，还要回来给他做饭，细致到菜要嫩的，不然咬不动，嫌亮还要给他关窗帘，衣领有脏东西还给他擦。</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;border-radius: 6px;'></span><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: var(--articleFontsize);letter-spacing: 0.034em;border-radius: 6px;'></span><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: var(--articleFontsize);letter-spacing: 0.034em;border-radius: 6px;'></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 2px; font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 2px; font-size: 15px;'>不止小盛，生活中不少儿子都是这样——<span style='color: rgb(171, 25, 66);'><strong>父亲再失败、再不负责任，儿子都会共情父亲。</strong></span></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 2px; font-size: 15px;'><strong><br></strong></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>小盛觉得从前是物理老师的父亲，现在不能动，看着心酸，充满对其处境的感同身受。</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>好像把父亲当牌位一样供着，哄得父亲开心，得到父亲认同，他才拥有社会身份，才成为一个有根脉的男人（即便生他养他的是妈妈和奶奶）。</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>假如当初离家的是母亲，那一定谴责母亲，才能彰显他的身份，就像《问心》里赵又廷饰演的儿子，不肯原谅当初为事业牺牲家庭的母亲一样。</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 2px; font-size: 15px;'>而讽刺的是，儿子对父亲的拳拳孝心，是要牺牲母亲去成全的。</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 2px; font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;border-radius: 6px;'></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>《梦想改造家》这一期，实在“典”到每一处细节都写满了历史——</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>女性如何被挤压、吞噬的历史。</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>即便母亲已经找到了自己的生活，一句“儿子的需要”，就可以绑住她，让她回到原点。</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;'>我知道母职期待，困住的不止有母亲，还有将自私合理化的子女。</span></section><section style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>我们在说“妈妈，我希望你有自己的生活”，心里还是舍不得她用牺牲自我换来的衣来伸手饭来张口。</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>在“断亲”这个词流行开来时，我们该先切断的难道不是——</span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'><br></span></section><section style='margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;'><span style='font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 15px;'>因为毫无代价因而理所当然的索取。</span></section></div> 挺让人窒息的 赞
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